Have you been forgotten before?

You are at a high-class event with many people – there are news reporters, cameras, famous or important people everywhere. All of a sudden, a random reporter comes up to you and asks if you have time for a quick interview. You respond with an uneasy, but excited, yes and then are asked to follow them to a particular location.

While following the reporter, they are all of a sudden blind-sided by a fellow coworker that is frantic about something. The reporter becomes antsy and immediately starts looking around. Their eyes meet yours and they suddenly ask who you are without hesitation.

You reply telling the reporter that they wanted you to be interviewed. However, your response falls on deaf ears as they look at you without remembering. Instead of giving you a response, they just leave and neglect you altogether.

What does being forgotten feel like? How does someone just instantly not remember what they asked of you? Are they really to blame for their actions? These types of questions are the aftermath of being a victim to someone who cares so little. This is not a type of bullying, but the ruthlessness of today’s fast-paced society. Of course, this type of treatment has been repeated constantly over history. Yet, the sad fact remains that people are just plain neglected and forgotten.

Being forgotten leaves a bitter and demoralizing feeling; the nature of humans is often cruel and distasteful. Fortunately, the depressing act of being forgotten can be remedied. Should you be forgotten, remember to internalize the feeling and dwell on why this happened. Then solve the problem: what can I do to make someone not forget about me?

This is an independent problem for everyone, which means you will need to find your own answer. Finding the answer means researching others and how they remain memorable, watching people in general, or creatively building your own rapport. Becoming social or learning to become social is important for being memorable.

Even if you go out of your way to become memorable, there is still one thing that remains important. Do not make yourself memorable to everyone and anyone, find only the people you want to be remembered by. A social group or select few people will help solve the problem quickly.

There are always different scenarios when you are forgotten for some reason. Being prepared to face those scenarios with the research or creative solution you obtained will be your best practice to see if your solution works. Keep your mind open and aware when scenarios like this happen; building experience from being forgotten is a good thing and can mellow your feelings.

However, being forgotten is only one side of the same coin. You must also be vigilant in remembering others. People like being remembered and will respond with open demeanor. Take interest into others and be patient, you will be rewarded.

Do not let someone feel the same forgotten feeling you once had yourself. Of course, this only merits within your selected social group or selective choices. Which is why you want to choose your social groups and ensure you are being treated equally.

Being forgotten can be a sad and demeaning process of thoughts and experiences. But learning to grow out of those experiences is what makes someone truly memorable. Humans will constantly allow themselves to get swept up into this fast-paced society and more people will be forgotten. However, only you need to be cognizant of being memorable to those you choose, while being mindful of them in the process.

In the end, no one truly wishes to be forgotten. At least, to those they wish to be remembered. That is why, you will need to find your own group or individuals and solve the mystery of what makes you truly memorable to others on your own.